Cheated by Summer — But Not by Fall

Getting ready for work this morning, I was gazing out our bedroom window.  (Yes, I literally caught myself gazing.)  Our bedroom is on the second story and there are three trees planted right outside so that the leaves are at window level.  And while I was fiddling with my jewelry and gazing into the leafy canopy, I noticed that some of the leaves were turning bright red around the edges.

As hot and dry and miserable as it has been for us and much of the country this summer, you would think that I would embrace the first signs of the welcoming cool and crisp mornings that make autumn my favorite season.

But I felt a bit of remorse and a little bit cheated.  Our summer had been so busy with sports camps and weekend tournaments and storm damage clean up and weeding in a vegetable garden that was not cooperating, that I felt we hadn’t had a real summer break.  We hadn’t just hung out on the back deck, swatting at mosquitos until we couldn’t take it anymore.  We hadn’t grilled out and roasted marshmallows.  We hadn’t caught fireflies.  We hadn’t eaten ice cream from the Good Humor truck.  We hadn’t ridden our bikes all through the neighborhood until it was almost too dark to see.  We hadn’t played flashlight tag.  We hadn’t eaten watermelon with the juice dripping and staining our T-shirts.

And I won’t make that mistake again.

And with autumn on the cusp, here are our plans:  picking apples, going to the Renaissance Festival, making hot cider, buying a new sweater, going to Friday night football, tailgating, corn mazes, using the heat lamp on the deck and wrapping in a blanket so that we can stay up late talking, bon fires, picking pumpkins, roasting pumpkin seeds, making granola, loving orange.

Soccer Mom Equals Chauffeur

My husband and I started our family a number of years before my siblings did; in fact, my oldest is 5+ years older than the next oldest cousin.  And so, we had the joy of exploring and sharing all the rights of childhood activity passage with our family before the rest experienced organized sports in the suburbs! 

For years, my brother and his wife would politely listen to Dave and I share our children’s latest triumphs on the soccer field.  And I truly felt that the grandparents and aunts and uncles were genuinely interested in what the kids were doing.  At the same time, these same people were inwardly thinking that Dave and I were absolutely nuts.  One needed a PhD in logistics in order to coordinate our weekends and the ability to transcend space and time in order to be both north and south of town at exactly the same time for two different championships.  I suspect that out of my earshot they clucked and tisked (or worse) that poor Dave and Ellen “have no life”.

And now, this summer, I am delighted to report that both of my young nephews are excelling in their current chosen activity…one made the competitive swim team and the other made a select soccer team.  And that means my brother and sister are now…chauffers, cheerleaders and they had better make friends with the other parents if they want any social life for the next few years.

All I can say is…enjoy this time.  As frustrating as shuttling kids from activity to activity can be, there is something incredibly wonderful when you see your child be brave and try something new.  Whether they excel on the field or not, your heart just grows when you watch them do their thing.

Oh yes, and we now have a third driver in the family!